Learn to think differently by changing unhelpful thoughts into helpful ones

Abdulaziz meets his friend Ghafoor

Abdulaziz takes care of his father, who is living with dementia. While he is shopping, he meets his friend Ghafoor, who asks, “How are you? Do you need any help caring for your father?”

Abdulaziz thinks to himself, “if Ghafoor thinks I need help, he must think that I am a bad carer”.
3. Check your understanding
How thoughts influence our feelings.

How do you think Abdulaziz is feeling?
Please check all the responses that you feel are appropriate.

  1. Abdulaziz thought, “if Ghafoor thinks that I need help, he must think I am a bad carer.”

    This is an unhelpful thought that may make Abdulaziz feel:

​What if Abdulaziz instead thinks to himself, “if Ghafoor thinks I need help, he must care about me and my father and wants to make sure we are doing well”?
4. Check your understanding
Match feelings to a helpful thought.

How does Abdulaziz feel now?
Please check all the responses that you feel are appropriate.

  1. Abdulaziz thought, “if Ghafoor thinks I need help, he must care about my father and want to make sure that we are doing well”.



  2. This is a helpful thought that may make Abdulaziz feel happy or supported.

Keep in mind

  • Sometimes you cannot change the things that happen (events), but you can change your response (thoughts).
1.Activity
Which unhelpful thoughts do you have?
In an earlier example you indicated which thoughts are helpful and which may be unhelpful.
Below you will find a list of unhelpful thoughts.
Please check the unhelpful thoughts that you have or provide additional examples.
2.Activity
Which helpful thoughts do you have?
In an earlier example you indicated which thoughts are helpful and which may be unhelpful. Below you will find a list of helpful thoughts.
Please check the helpful thoughts that you have or provide additional examples.

Keep in mind

  • Changing your unhelpful thoughts to helpful ones can make you feel better.